Category Archives: Martha

Life in Slow Motion

August 5th, Monday

I got involved in a car accident today. Unfortunately, Martha was with me. Fortunately, we were not hurt.

We were on our way to buy medicines for my Dad and do grocery for my Mom when a truck hit our rear. It is true that when you are hit by a car, you barely know what happened. Even up to now, everything is still a blur to me. All I remember was that when we were hit, my hands went up like I was riding a rollercoaster. Then our driver shouted somebody hit our car – and the first terrifying thought I had was that Martha might be hurt. Thankfully, she wasn’t. She just suffered an abrasion to her forehead and save for a few tears of terror, she was fine. She gladly recounted what happened to anybody who would ask, even showing her bruise (We brought her to the ER and no internal injuries were reported).

What really happened:
We stopped at an intersection to let a car make a turn. When the driver was about to accelerate, we were hit from behind by a truck. Due to the force, we hit the car in front of us and that car went to the opposite lane. Thankfully, there were no cars speeding in the opposite lane or else it would’ve been a bigger crash. So the car’s front and rear sides are smashed (it’s a wreck. And it is just a borrowed car since we brought our Dad to the hospital. Thankfully, the owner didn’t get mad at us (and that everything will be covered by insurance).)

The truck driver was reeking of alcohol. He was so drunk! He should enroll in Easy Los Angeles Traffic School like how Justin Beiber Needs Traffic School.

Do not DRINK and DRIVE people. PLEASE.
I am thankful to be alive and safe but may have some PTSD on what happened. Whenever our car does an overtake or whenever I see a truck, I get so doozy and my heart palpitates.

Missing the Tuya.

The three kids over the weekend. #latergram
Their latest picture together. If you know my mom paparazzi tendencies, you’d know this was a first. It has been rare that they can be caught on camera together because 1) they only get together during weekends 2) they don’t like to be photographed anymore and 3) most of the time, they’d rather be pictured with Jolie.

You see subtle signs here and there.

Pre-Jolie, Martha was terrible. (Jolie is her baby cousin who has been staying with us for a month already.) She would come home from school and after thirty minutes, cry. I ask her why and she’d wail, “Wala ako magawa!” in a pitiful voice. Or worse, she’d say, “Di na ako masaya. Wala ako kasama.” (like I am not counted as “kasama”). This led me to make sure that I am finished with work the moment she arrives at home. But this was a challenge since I still have house chores to do.

Random conversations go like this:

“Alam mo Ma, ayaw ko na sa (enter school here). Pwede naman ako aral sa Manila eh. Para sama sama na tyo ni Kuya.”

“Ma, pag grade eight na si Kuya sa dorm pa rin sya?” (When I say yes) “Pati grade 9, 10, 11 and 12? Hala! Ang tagal pala.”

“Ma, parang namimiss ko si Kuya.”

It’s not that she is mopey and sulky. She just randomly inserts those lines during conversations. It goes to show that she really misses the Kuya. There were weekends when Mato would be home and she would be at my parents’, but one Saturday she changed her mind and decided to be with us at home. She said, “Kasi mamimiss ko si Kuya eh. Happy family tyo.” (Melt my heart, will you?) Imagine how frustrating it is for me to hear her Kuya brush her aside (Martha, tumigil ka na nga…Martha, alis ka sa kwarto ko. Alis!). I attribute it to tweener hormones and a lot of stress brought by school projects. He has a lot on his plate lately.

Two days ago, we were watching Harry Potter on TV when Martha said, “Ma, ayaw ko na yan panuorin. Naalala ko si Kuya. Nasasad ako.”

And last night, while we were reviewing for her tests today, I saw this:

Just noticed this - kuya matthew is listed as one of his fave friends.  And note Starbucks is one of her fave places.

Kuya matthew is listed as one of his fave friends. And note Starbucks is one of her fave places.

It certainly looks like there are THREE people at home missing the Tuya. Me, Daed and most certainly, little Marts.

Martha: 7 Years | 20 Questions

2013
Photo by KSnaps Photography.

1. What is your favorite color? pink
2. What is your favorite toy? Lalaloopsy, Barbie
3. What is your favorite fruit? mango, grapes, orange, green mango
4. What is your favorite tv show? Lalaloopsy, Doc McStuffin
5. What is your favorite thing to eat for lunch? Chicken, Sinigang
6. What is your favorite outfit? T-shirt and leggings
7. What is your favorite game? Candy Crush
8. What is your favorite snack? Oreo
9. What is your favorite animal? Dog
10. What is your favorite song? Mamma Mia
11. What is your favorite book? Bible
12. Who is your best friend? Ninia, Gabby, Raymond, Annika, Josh, Marian
13. What is your favorite cereal? Koko Krunch, Honey Stars
14. What is your favorite thing to do outside? Eat in Starbucks
15. What is your favorite drink? Water, All
16. What is your favorite holiday? Christmas, Easter, Birthday, Valentine’s
17. What do you like to take to bed with you at night? Mommy, Daddy, Kuya, Lola, Lolo, Jolie, Tita Abbie, Tita Agnes
18. What is your favorite thing to eat for breakfast? Bread
19. What do you want for dinner? Chicken, Sinigang and rice
20. What do you want to be when you grow up? Teacher and Doctor

Inspired by this post.

10 Things Right Now | Martha

Martha @ 7. #marthablythe

Watching Nickelodeon shows lately. She also watches Hole in the Wall and Phineas and Ferb (Disney Jr.)

Loving playing with her Dad every night. This is something I appreciate Edil doing. While I wash the dishes after dinner, he reads to Marts and plays with her. They even speak in English, practicing and building confidence.

Wanting to always play and be with her cousin Jolie. It’s been a transition stage for us all, with each of us adjusting to our new normal. It’s hard on her too. She would cry and tell me she is sad because she doesn’t have anything to do. I think this is more because her Kuya isn’t here and it’s just me and her before her Dad comes home. It can get lonely.

Eating anything. She loves drinking hot Milo with fresh milk. And hotdogs.

Playing role plays. Either she is the tindera of her store or the buyer.

Singing Glee songs. And the art songs she has been taught in school.

Asking when she can play, when she will go to her friends. Asking a lot of questions about what I am doing, what I am cooking, what will she read, etc etc.

Reading the Candy Fairies saga. We really make it an obligation for her to read every night – no fail, since we know that’s it’s her waterloo (she can read but has trouble with comprehension). The challenge is how to encourage her to read without us telling her to. Children aren’t born readers, they become one. We need more books!

Wearing dresses lately. She plans outfits ahead of time, complete with her hair accessory, bracelets and necklace. Such a girly girl (Ma-arts).

Looking forward to Fridays because she can stay with her Lolo and Lola and play with Jolie.

Inspired by Ali’s post.

In a Blink of An Eye

'The Days Are Long, But The Years Are Short' A quote from author Gretchen Rubin.

‘The Days Are Long, But The Years Are Short’ A quote from author Gretchen Rubin. Illustrated by Jon Sunder.

My kids are gone most of the day.

Martha is out the whole day, arrives in the afternoon.

This is closely followed by Edil, my firstborn figuratively, around dinner.

I don’t get to see Mato up until Friday nights, if I’m lucky.

I am 32 and feel like I’m an empty nester already.

Such are my days lately. And though I know I can actively do something about it, I will try to use the time to reflect and plan what my next path would be, if depression and sadness wouldn’t get the best of me.