See, there is a good point hanging around FB sometimes. I read this post from Clarice (a fellow W@wie-turned-wedding coordinator) and was instantly floored.

Let me remind you today. You’re not gonna promise to each other that you will not disappoint one another. You will. At some point you will. What is important is you don’t go away, you don’t escape, you don’t leave one another because you were disappointed. That is the meaning of fidelity.

That was part of a homily the priest said during a wedding. The priest was Fr. Ed Africa.

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Got this from Wifespeaks.  I underlined my answers.

He says, she says…

1. When watching television, custody of the remote controls belongs to:
a. the husband
b. the wife
c. whoever turned on the TV
d. whoever is stronger
e. whoever can find it underneath the cushions

2. Entertaining friends for dinner should be:
a. a catered affair
b. a sit-down meal lovingly prepared in your own kitchen
c. served buffet style (but ordered from restaurants since I don’t know how to cook hehe!)
d. pot-luck
e. food brought home in boxes

3. A new car should be selected based on:
a. its purchase price
b. its performance, repair and insurance costs
c. what your business associates are driving
d. its color
e. the arrangement of the cup holders

4. The toilet seat should be:
a. down, with the lid closed
b. down, with the lid up
c. left up
d. left up or down, it doesn’t matter (then whoever wants to use it will either lift the lid up or put it down)
e. up in his bathroom, down in her bathroom

5. The proper location for dirty clothes is:
a. the clothes hamper
b. the floor near the clothes hamper
c. the floor in the room where the hamper is located
d. on the furniture in the room where the hamper is located
e. near the bed so you can wear them again the next day

6. In the middle of summer, it’s best if:
a. the air conditioning is in full blast, at all times
b. the air conditioner is on, sometimes
c. no air conditioning, the electric fan will do
d. no air conditioning and no fan, a pamaypay will do
e. the windows are left open for the breeze to come in

7. Any home-cooked food is best if:
a. it is eaten immediately after it’s prepared
b. served with candlelight and soft music
c. it’s made the way mom made it
d. it has catsup on it
e. the fire department didn’t have to be called

8. The best way to travel on vacation is:
a. by plane (if we have enough money)
b. by train
c. by car
d. on foot hiking through the wilderness
e. separately, to different destinations

9. Trips to the mall should be made when:
a. there is a specific item that is needed (not really my answer but this is the best among the choices given)
b. there is a big sale
c. it’s raining and there’s nothing else to do
d. you can’t find what you need at a tag sale
e. you have a new credit card

10. The volume on the stereo should be set:
a. low enough to allow normal conversation
b. loud enough to fully appreciate the quality of the recording
c. low enough so the neighbors don’t complain
d. loud enough to feel the vibrations
e. just low enough to avoid significant structural damage

11. Laundry should be done:
a. twice a week
b. weekly
c. every other week
d. monthly
e. when you run out of clean underwear

12. My idea of an exotic vacation destination is:
a. Hawaii
b. Thailand
c. Boracay
d. Tagaytay
e. Luneta Baywalk

13. Repainting the living room should be done by:
a. a licensed professional
b. the two of us working in harmony (i wish we can do this)
c. the college kid down the street
d. whoever’s idea it was to repaint the room
e. the time your mother arrives to visit

14. When buying a new TV, it is important to consider:
a. the size of the room in which it’s located
b. what will fit in the entertainment center
c. your budget
d. how many people you’ll be inviting over for football games
e. whether you can fit it through the door

15. Before having children, you should be together for:
a. at least one year
b. at least two years
c. at least five years
d. at least nine months
e. one last quiet, romantic evening

16. Eating in bed is:
a. inappropriate under any circumstances
b. okay if you’re sick and can’t get up
c. acceptable if served on a proper bed tray
d. good to do while watching late night TV
e. an effective way to avoid having sex

17. The best videos to rent are:
a. the newest releases
b. classic films
c. romantic comedies
d. action dramas
e. found in stores with XXXX on the sign

18. When one of you feels he or she should lose weight, the other should:
a. insist that their partner is perfect just the way they are
b. be supportive
c. join in the weight-loss program (right honey?)
d. buy him or her a membership in a health club
e. move out until the diet is over

19. When the female is upset or angry, the male should:
a. be comforting
b. ask what the problem is
c. try to solve the problem
d. tell her to get over it
e. apologize. She’s already decided it’s his fault anyway

20. Household chores should be done by:
a. the wife
b. the husband
c. both of them working together (plus the maid)
d. the maid
e. the kids, that’s why you had them

21. When decorating your first home, the furnishings should be:
a. the latest style
b. an eclectic blend of antique and new
c. the best you can afford
d. purchased at tag sales
e. whatever you can swipe from your parents’ homes

22. You should attend a place of worship:
a. weekly
b. monthly
c. on major holidays
d. when your mother’s in town
e. when you find one that serves 1995 Domaine d’Auvenay Criots-Batard-Montrachet for communion

23. Taking out the garbage is the responsibility of:
a. the husband
b. the wife
c. whoever put the last item in
d. whoever is going out anyway
e. the household staff (or the husband if the household staff is on vacation)

24. My idea of the ideal birthday party is:
a. a romantic dinner for two
b. cake and coffee with a few friends
c. a small gathering with family members
d. a surprise party with everyone I know
e. a celebration that would rival a Presidential inaugural

25. If we have an argument we should:
a. kiss and make up before we go to bed
b. sit down and discuss it like two rational people
c. go to separate rooms until we cool off
d. contact a marriage counselor
e. make sure all lethal weapons are out of reach

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Since this month is our wedding month, I decided to feature random posts about our wedding and how married life has been for us.

I got an e-mail the other day about someone stumbling upon my blog while looking for ideas for a pink and brown wedding. It seems that is what our wedding was known for, especially at Weddings@Work, a online community I joined in while I planning my wedding.

I planned everything online, 3 months before the wedding day. And mind you, our wedding was out of town. It helped a lot that our wedding day fell on a weekday so getting wedding suppliers was easier.

And believe it or not, I spent more time working on the details of our wedding day than on my wedding gown. I finalized my wedding gown on May 15 and had it made two weeks after. And our wedding was on June 24. There was a reason for this – I never really made an effort to lose weight so deciding on a wedding gown that wouldn’t make me look fat nor motherly was a challenge.

In the end I decided on this, I wanted everything to be just like it even the matching heels .

In the end, my wedding couturier was able to make me look like a bride. With the matching shoes, only with a big custom-made Swarovski crystal flower as an accent.

This is perfect for a garden wedding though:

Saw it from Stylehive.com

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We celebrated June 3rd, our fifth civil wedding anniversary, with a greet-and-peck-on-the cheeks. I prefer to celebrate our Church wedding anniversary because it is ultimately OUR covenant to each other.

While most couples I know still celebrate their monthsary, BF-GF anniversary, and all the other –saries out there, I prefer to celebrate the only three dates that matter, anyways.

August 10 – the date that changed my life forever. (I said Yes to Edil, 13 yrs ago)

January 20 – while it holds no bearing for Edil, it is my anniversary for ME, because it has proved that the Big Man is always quick to answer my prayers, no matter how much I ask for – I am just too hard-headed to see. After 11 months of trying to hold it in, I went to church, ask for a confessor (it was 3PM) and cried. Sought advice. And there, I really felt peace – as if it was really the Father talking to me – and you know what, believe it or not, when I came home, Edil was at our house, after 11 months! (grabe no?). And three days after, we are back together, planning to get married. Sabi nga ni Edil nun, “Wala ng urungan to ha, uupakan kita!” Hahahaha

June 24 – While everything else stands out, the wedding, the details, Edil whispering his vows to me after the wedding will forever be the highlight of my dream wedding come true. Really. I may mentally divorce him a hundred times, but my heart is with him, forever.

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And while I sometimes can’t help but feel inggit when other couples are more romantic than us, I just try and remember this quote:

“Don’t over-analyze your marriage; it’s like yanking up a fragile indoor plant every 20 minutes to see how the roots are growing. "

The Bill Ballance Hip Handbook

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Who would have thought I would love being in the kitchen?

Well, scratch that. I’ve only been cooking ALL the time since Saturday so I might not be sick of it yet. Plus Edil cooked last night because I got so tired washing all the dishes (yes a family of four consumes a lot of plates and I wash the cooking utensils too!) – so he cooked his specialty fried chicken with gravy (thank you Del Monte!).

Anyway, yes, I’m enjoying cooking. So far, I’ve fed my kids complete meals since Saturday but I still need help in knowing which spice is needed. For example, when I cook a tomato-based dish, and it’s too sour, what would I get to countertaste? Salt, fish sauce or soy sauce?

I also have listed the kitchen utensils I want to get – these are small stuff which I can get when we do groceries every Saturday. I will buy them one by one so I can complete them in 3 months time.

There are anolon utensils I love to get:

And some circulon cookware. I want to get this non-stick Chef’s pan:
 

I all saw these from the Move Cookshop web site. They offer a variety of contemporary & premium cookware at a great price!

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From Farah.

? What are your middle names? S and S
? How long have you been together? 9 turbulent years as BF-GF, going on 4 years as husband and wife.
? How long did you know each other before you were married? 9 years.
? Who asked who out? Him
? How old are each of you? E is 30. A is 28. 
? Whose siblings do/ did you see the most? My youngest sister.
? Do you have any children together? Yes. One boy who is 8. One girl who is almost three. 
? What about pets? No pets.
? Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple? Submitting as a docile wife
? Did you go to the same school? E is from MIT. A is from UST 
? Are you from the same home town? E is from Bicol. A is pure Manilena. 
? Who is the smartest? We have our own expertise. He really is good at sales and can even handle sales training sessions.
? Who is the most sensitive? I am.
? Where do you eat out most as a couple? Jollibee. That is the only restaurant/fastfood my son recognizes.
? Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple? Baguio
? Who has the craziest exes? No exes. Many flings. Hehe.
? Who has the worst temper? Both of us. We are volcanoes. 
? Who does the cooking? Me, even if I don’t know how to cook.
? Who is more social? Him. He is Mr. Friendship and PR rolled into one. 
? Who is the neat-freak? Ehem.
? Who is the more stubborn? Me.
? Who hogs the bed? Neither. We can sleep on the floor and let the kids take our bed. 
? Who wakes up earlier? Ehem, we don’t sleep.
? Where was your first date? McDonald’s
? Who has the bigger family? Him. Eight siblings
? Do you get flowers often? I think he knows I don’t like flowers.
? How do you spend the holidays? Out and about everyday for about a week.
? Who is more jealous? We both are, he just knows how to hide it – passive-agressive!
? How long did it take to get serious? We were way too serious early on.
? Who eats more? Uhm, me?
? Who does the laundry? Cleaning lady but he likes to do the laundry.
? Who’s better with the computer? Troubleshooting-wise, he is. Surfing-wise, me
? Who drives when you are together? Him. I don’t know how to drive.

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I was just looking through my wedding album awhile ago. I was cleaning and the album just fell into my hands. It really was my dream wedding come true. One of the most cherished “scenes” I will never forget during the wedding was the little heaven that I saw in Church. Rose petals were scattered along the aisle and everything was just filled with pink and white blooms. It was so lovely. I remember that FiftyFlowers has been a long recognized company that specializes on wedding flowers. They deliver wholesale flowers that are gorgeous, and as fresh as your local florist. Moreso, they ship overnight express straight from their flower grower farms.

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I miss you.

My hands are always full with the kids but my heart is empty.

January could not come soon enough.

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