It was not an unexpected moment: you had long since been hoping for a promotion, a chance to find greater success and greater challenges. You’ve devoted years to proving yourself, seeking out the chances others would’ve ignored. You worked hard; you gave everything; and the consequence is now a reward. You’ll be moving on to better, brighter things.

Now you simply have to explain it to your children.

Before you seek out moving quotes and storage units, before you circle every possible property, you need to offer reasons (and patience) to the ones who won’t understand:

1. Don’t wait: The potential awkwardness of moving — all the sobs and refusals you’re expecting your children to offer — is enough to quell even the boldest hearts. But hesitation is not wise here. You must address the situation as soon as you are certain of it. Give your children enough time to absorb the information and become accustomed to it.

2. Be ready with facts: Moving may be essential but your son or daughter may believe it instead to be a tragedy. When you must tell them, don’t simply offer statements — offer incentives. Research the area you are relocating to and find points of interest. From schools to parks to amusements, list out what your children will wish to hear. This can ease the transition and offer hope.

3. Explain what will change and what will remain: You can’t always have the luxury of taking every item and keeping every memento. Space, practicality and expense can dominate any move. Explain to your children that they will not be losing their favored toys and collectibles, though. While older items may be sold, you must stress that they will be taking still used pieces with them. This will help to soothe any worries. A move can be a burden on any child. You must detail it quickly and answer all concerns.

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