Recap to AWK1: The Married Life

First of all, thank you to all those who have posted their thoughts on married life. There were 18 women who have given me some wisdom, enough for me to learn more along the way. I appreciate it sooo much that I decided to make a minibook of all the advices for my kids. It is still a work in progress - but trust me, it is something I love doing already!

I decided to highlight some of the things I LOVED while reading your posts, I strongly suggest you read everyone’s entries because there might be some points they have written where you will get more from

I especially like the entries that were written by the 2 Joys — Joy and Dzoi. Joy’s post is something that has brought tears to my eyes and affected me so much - read it first! Special mention to Em because she might just have summarized everything sa haba ng entry nya LOL - I actually like the “Be a mistress to your husband” line

Here are the wives’ entries - thank you so much from the bottom of my heart (walang etching yan promise).

Vannie:

Getting my way ALL the time is not really as important as finding a way to work it out together.

You have to WORK to make the marriage “work”.

Farah:

… that respect is the ultimate virtue that shoulr be present in every marriage. respect begets respect and it’s true they say that love, after many years, will fade but respect should remain constant in yor lives. when you respect your partner, you will never do anything to make hurt her. i don’t really mind falling out of love. for me, what’s more important is not losing my respect for my partner.

Jacq:

Little acts of love are always appreciated. Don’t forget to say I LOVE YOU to your husband everyday.

Abie:

But what I learned from all of this is that as long as we stand for each other, as long as we learn how to compromise, and as long as we learn how to respect and love each other, we will always have a happy life.

Nice:

Disagree without being disagreeable.

Mich:

It is actually a decision. A decision to love the person no matter what and in spite of his weaknesses. Easier said than done. But it really takes a lot of work to make the relationship work.

Joy:

This is the challenge to me now. To be faithful at all times at all cost. To continue to be loving towards my husband even when it’s not reciprocated. To continue to serve him even when I feel ignored and unappreciated. Because I was loved first. And I have been loved enough in my lifetime (and continue to be loved by my God) that there is enough love to be given away even when I’m not loved back by the person.

Joey:

When you get married, you don’t decide things just for yourself. You have to ALWAYS consider your spouse in your decisions. Later, when you have kids, the more you have to take them into consideration.

Kathy:

There are times when there are some things I would want to have but after realizing the stage we are in, the family comes first motto would sink in. Being married ties up with a lot of sacrifices for the marriage to work.

Toni:

That communication is very important. You have to tell your partner whatever it is that’s bothering you, whether it’s petty or not. Don’t keep it to yourself or else you’ll find yourself buried in resentment. Open up so that both of you can work out your differences

Dzoi:

No matter how hard you fight or whatever conflicts you may have, it should always be you and him against the world.

Meeya:

Sacrificing careers, ambitions, and stilletos for the sake of your family’s welfare, well yes. Although, for me, I can’t see how I could call it a sacrifice when I actually found my “calling” in the process.

If I could hammer something into my daughter’s head that she could hold for her entire lifetime, it would be the sanctity of marriage and the responsibility that comes with it. I would like her to be able to take marriage seriously, truly find a man who will love and respect her, give her the perfect balance of romance and responsibility, and someone whom she can make sacrifices for, too. Because marriage changes one’s life, no kidding, and having the best partner makes all the changes almost seamless and definitely worth it.

Jacqui:

The couples must work together, learn to accept each other, warts and all … and compromise!!Secondly, HUMILITY. Yes, you and your hubby fight or argue sometimes but that doesn’t mean it is the end of the world for both of you.

Jane:

Choose the right person to marry. Use your heart and your mind all at once. And once you marry that someone you cannot live without, make him your world and I’m sure he’ll make you his too.

Em:

Wait, wait, wait before taking the plunge. If you get pregnant or you get your girlfriend pregnant, don’t jump into marriage (unless you’re truly ready for it with or without the pregnancy), it is never a solution.

Pray together. Make God the center of everything in your married life. When you can’t compromise over a decision, sleep on it and let God do the rest. Have a weekly novena or rosary time, we do.

Marry your bestfriend.

Don’t embarass your partner infront of your/his/her family or friends nor bring them down.

And this I got from Peachy, to my daughter, be a mistress to your husband and to Ethan, be hot for your wife! It’s okay to be wild in bed, you’re married.

Jody:

Marriage life is a bliss and that’s what should be in our minds so we experience it ourselves instead of just thinking the other way around.

Peachy:

:: Since I have a son , I would tell him that respect to his partner is above all things. Married life is not just a commitment but a vocation you take. It’s not a “give and take” relationship.. BUT ” give and give “.. You don’t need to receive something in order to give anything back. Because when you truly love someone, you don’t really think of what you might get in the end, but more on what you can share to your partner so you two will grow.

:: And if i will soon have a girl.. i have a list to tell her, but definitely, I won’t miss on this one … BE A MISTRESS TO YOUR HUSBAND .. You know what i mean! Mahirap ng masingitan ng iba ! LOL

Amore

*Never get tired of supporting each other. You will hear a lot of things negatively and advices from other people, but always remember that your husband is part of you now, one flesh. If something wrong about him, it will not help to put more fire of negative things on it.. instead your obligation now is to pay respect to your husband by telling his positive side.

*Learn to accept that you married a man that is not perfect. So include loving that imperfection.

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