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Aggie Wants to Know #1

Posted on Jun 26, 2008 under Aggie-Tags-U |

Aggie Wants to Know!

Topic No. 1: Life After the Wedding - the Married Life.

What are the things you want them to know about life after the wedding?

(Serious naman tyo this week, next week na yung kwela!)

We celebrated three years of married life last Tuesday. We weren’t together. We didn’t celebrate. (In fact, he really forgot about it!!! Isang mortal sin! LOL) He left a comment on my blog post, but heck, too late, diba?

And as I’ve said:

We celebrate three years of married life today. And while I cannot really say it has been three years of wedded bliss, I would not have it any other way.

What really is life after the wedding? The marriage part. The married life.
What are the things you would like to tell women who like to get married? To be honest, I was so caught up in wedding preparations and envisioning my “dream wedding” to be able to envision (and prepare) for life after the wedding.

The first year was a NIGHTMARE! I wanted out, and felt like I married a stranger (sounds familiar, anybody?). Parang gusto kong iluwa yung sinabi ko nung speech namin, “We promise you, we will make this marriage work.” But then, thanks to the sandamakmak ng guidance from our parents, their prayers and their occasional referee-ing, we are now OK. Far from GOOD, but we are obviously way better than before.

So….
If Martha is to marry, Id expore her to hardcore real-life marriage facts.
1. Marriage is no fairytale. It doesnt really end with happily ever after. You work for your happy endings (the two of you).
2. You get married not to make you whole. You enter it as a whole person already. (same as with relationships) Two whole persons get united, and they become A third person - that’s the married couple.
3. As with Number 2, you are your own person. Never cease to grow ON YOUR OWN.
4. Make time for each other, especially when kids arrive.

And this may get personal, you know, but what the heck:

Martha,

The little things really do matter - the little quirks. Believe it or not, the singular most important (and only) thing that can drive me up the wall is your Dad not waking up early in the morning (totoo). When love fades, work to make it come back. Money shouldnt be fought about, but trust me, it IS an issue. Make sure you and your husband see eye to eye on that. Romance needs work. Take care of yourself (unlike me).

A marriage without God will never ever work. Trust me. I can tell you a hundred situations about that.

And I will leave you with something Lolo told me when I told them I want to get married (and di nila na ako mapigilan, hehehe).

“You know, your Mom and I, we really went through stages. You know that. Pero isa lang masasabi ko, when love fades, respect is the only thing that will remain. When you respect somebody, you like her, and then you begin to fall in love again. Ive fallen out of love with your Mom in and out, but I always chose to make myself fall in love with her again.”

And as I will always tell you, happiness is a choice. I chose your Dad. He chose me. We will make this work.
Falling in love is something everybody goes through.
Staying in love, that’s a different story.

Make God the center of your relationship.

PS.
And the little signs of love? It doesnt even compare to the unnoticed ones - those are the ones that leave a lasting mark.

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  1. by Vannie , on June 26 2008 @ 8:47 am

     

    love this post Aggie! you hit the mark on all issues re marriage & making it work..^_^

    nku serious post pala ito, di ko kakayanin. ahahaha hirap maging serious. ahahahaha

  2. by amore , on June 26 2008 @ 9:13 am

     

    This is a good one to join in Aggie :)Serious mode talaga :D

  3. by joy PHILIPPINES, on June 26 2008 @ 9:55 am

     

    I love everything about this post Aggie. I’ll have to think about mine but I’m excited about it already.

  4. by Apols , on June 26 2008 @ 10:28 am

     

    perfect timing, this post.

    naiinis ako sa HOUSEMATE KO kc bwahahahhaa.

  5. by Litzie , on June 26 2008 @ 10:29 am

     

    I’m composing mine as well Aggie. Great concept, I can’t wait for the next topic. Mukhang okay ito, something new and something fresh from all the tags I’m in.

    Litzies last blog post..Life Insured

  6. by Something Purple , on June 26 2008 @ 10:53 am

     

    i have to agree, you hit every aspect of ‘the’ married life.

  7. by thea , on June 26 2008 @ 11:37 am

     

    gusto ko sumali.
    oo nga, nasabi mo na halos lahat. :lol:

  8. by Liv , on June 26 2008 @ 1:55 pm

     

    Whew. It’s sooo true but it’s so heavy. I sometimes ask myself if it’s going to get easier any time soon? Haaay

  9. by Aggie Wants to Know #1 « me, myself + 2 , on June 26 2008 @ 2:39 pm

     

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  10. by Vannie , on June 26 2008 @ 2:40 pm

     

    mine is up!!!
    HERE

  11. by farah , on June 26 2008 @ 4:26 pm

     

    very nicely written aggie. good on you! :)

  12. by farah , on June 26 2008 @ 5:17 pm

     

    mine is up here: http://www.wifeynibangis.com/2008/06/aggie-wants-to-know-1.html

  13. by Jacq , on June 26 2008 @ 10:28 pm

     

    Here’s my post:
    http://purplecolourz.com/?p=1298
    Seryoso ito ha…

  14. by Shey , on June 27 2008 @ 12:44 am

     

    ohh.. I love this post! very well-said..
    naki join-in na ren ako hehe
    nice for people like me, who will soon be in that “marrying-stage” hehe

  15. by Nette UNITED STATES, on June 27 2008 @ 1:03 am

     

    thanks for sharing! and…
    happy anniversary!

    Nettes last blog post..baby shower

  16. by aggie.aviso , on June 27 2008 @ 6:14 am

     

    Vannie, ikaw nga ang isa mga nakagawa ng madali eh! Super thanks! Ung susunod promise kwela naman :)

  17. by aggie.aviso , on June 27 2008 @ 6:17 am

     

    Amore, I hope you join ha! Ill be looking forward to your entry!!

  18. by aggie.aviso , on June 27 2008 @ 6:18 am

     

    Di naman sya mind boggling no, sige will look forward to your entry :)

  19. by aggie.aviso , on June 27 2008 @ 6:19 am

     

    Bwahahaha Apols, Ill be looking forward to yours - Im sure maaliw ako nyan - no holds barred eh.

    Minsan nga matawag tong si Edil na Housemate. O kaya Border, kasi weekends lang naman sya andito LOL

  20. by aggie.aviso , on June 27 2008 @ 6:19 am

     

    Thanks Litzie, you’re the first one to finish the tag!

  21. by aggie.aviso , on June 27 2008 @ 6:20 am

     

    Thanks Em. I know you would write a very detailed entry as well (cinommit na daw ba? hehehe)

  22. by aggie.aviso , on June 27 2008 @ 6:21 am

     

    Sumali ka na! Lahat naman ni-tag ko eh :D

  23. by aggie.aviso , on June 27 2008 @ 6:22 am

     

    I sometimes ask myself if it’s going to get easier any time soon?

    Ay naku Liv, I ask myself that Q everytime. I think such is the life of a wife - we really have to give more. Sad but true.

  24. by aggie.aviso , on June 27 2008 @ 6:23 am

     

    Thanks Farah!
    Sa uulitin :D

  25. by aggie.aviso , on June 27 2008 @ 6:23 am

     

    Thanks for doing the Q&A Jacq!

  26. by aggie.aviso , on June 27 2008 @ 6:24 am

     

    Hello Shey!!! Be sure to visit the others who joined. Im sure you will pick up a thing or two :)

    Thanks for visiting!

  27. by aggie.aviso , on June 27 2008 @ 6:25 am

     

    Nette, thanks for dropping by.
    Ngaun ko lang nareceive ung notice of registration mo sa Bebots Forum :) Approved na sya.

    If you have some inputs to share, feel free to blog about it :) Thanks!

  28. by Gracie , on June 27 2008 @ 3:21 pm

     

    mismo! sakto! swak na swak! you said it all, sister!

    p.s. i love what your Dad advised you when you told them you wanted to get married. it’s so real.

  29. by peachy , on June 27 2008 @ 6:01 pm

     

    ano pa nga ba masasabi ko eh nasabi mo na lahat :) and yung words ng dad mo, ganyan din sinabi ng dad ko nun.. basta all about respecting your partner :)

    will wait for the next topic. pag isipan ko muna answer ko dito

    peachys last blog post..Flaming !

  30. by abie AUSTRALIA, on June 28 2008 @ 1:02 am

     

    hi sis, eto na:

    http://www.womenxplore.com/2008/06/aggie-wants-to-know-1.html

    Pagtyagaan mo na lang yang sagot ko. Ewan ko ba, ayaw gumana ng utak ko..hehehe

  31. by aggie.aviso , on June 28 2008 @ 5:47 am

     

    Thanks Gracie :)
    Sali ka ha, or next time :)

  32. by aggie.aviso , on June 28 2008 @ 5:48 am

     

    Thanks Peachy!

  33. by aggie.aviso , on June 28 2008 @ 5:49 am

     

    Abie! Online ka na! Galing! LOL
    Thanks for doing the tag ha

  34. by toni AUSTRALIA, on June 28 2008 @ 9:47 pm

     

    hi aggie! serious mode ah. ganda naman ng topic. at lahat na nasabi mo wala na yata akong masasabi pa. hehe! pero sali ako, isip pa ako ng isasagot dito. :)

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  36. by N!cE AUSTRALIA, on June 29 2008 @ 4:33 pm

     

    Nice one Aggie! I’ve been waiting for this for so long. :)

    Here are my answers > http://www.nicemorning.net/2008/06/29/awk-1-life-after-the-wedding/

    N!cE
    http://www.nicemorning.net
    http://www.mommastuff.com

  37. by aggie.aviso , on June 30 2008 @ 6:41 am

     

    Sali ka Toni ha, marami ka pa masasabi, wala pa sa katiting ung nasulat ko dyan :)

  38. by aggie.aviso , on June 30 2008 @ 6:42 am

     

    Uy thanks so much Nice for playing along!

  39. by My Colorful World » Aggie Wants to Know #1 , on June 30 2008 @ 4:09 pm

     

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  40. by Mich PHILIPPINES, on June 30 2008 @ 4:10 pm

     

    hi Aggie, done here:

    http://michmagbag.com/?p=244

    thanks uli!

  41. by Joy UNITED STATES, on June 30 2008 @ 11:58 pm

     

    I’ll do this sometime this week Aggie. Actually, timing nga kasi meron akong iniisip na i-compose na post along these lines.

  42. by Mitch AUSTRALIA, on July 1 2008 @ 2:36 am

     

    Uy may ganito ka na pala!

    I agree with what you’ve said “Falling in love is something everybody goes through. Staying in love, that’s a different story.”

    Pwede pa ba humabol?

  43. by aggie.aviso , on July 1 2008 @ 4:19 am

     

    Thanks for doing the tag Mich!!!

  44. by aggie.aviso , on July 1 2008 @ 4:20 am

     

    Thanks Joy! Take your time :D

  45. by aggie.aviso , on July 1 2008 @ 4:23 am

     

    Mich, pwede pa humabol - I hope you can join :)

  46. by London Kline ISRAEL, on July 1 2008 @ 1:15 pm

     

    truly loved bumping into this text

  47. by Joy UNITED STATES, on July 2 2008 @ 7:56 am

     

    Girl…mine turned out more serious that I expected. But I’ve written it anyway.
    Here’s mine:
    http://tanjuakiohome.blogspot.com/2008/07/faithfulness.html

  48. by aggie.aviso , on July 2 2008 @ 8:32 am

     

    Thanks for the very inspiring post Joy :)

  49. by jane , on July 2 2008 @ 3:55 pm

     

    aggie, will answer this pero boring ang sagot ko eh.

    parati actually namin sinasabi ni jon, we didnt adjust at all! parang weird ano? basta kwento ko when i post my answer.

  50. by aggie.aviso , on July 3 2008 @ 5:44 am

     

    Sige post mo ng makita ko LOL

  51. by Joey , on July 3 2008 @ 8:00 am

     

    Hi Aggie! Belated Happy Wedding Anniversary! Here’s my answer to your query.

    Sorry medyo nadelay :)
    Joeys last blog post..Married Life

  52. by Joey , on July 3 2008 @ 8:01 am

     

    BTW, Aggie, posted it on my other blog. I hope you don’t mind :).

  53. by kathycot PHILIPPINES, on July 3 2008 @ 10:56 am

     

    aggie! here’s my entry for this number 1:

    http://whenmomspeaks.com/?p=35

    thank you!

  54. by Our Growing Family » Aggie Wants To Know #1 UNITED STATES, on July 3 2008 @ 10:35 pm

     

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  55. by toni AUSTRALIA, on July 3 2008 @ 10:37 pm

     

    hi aggie! here’s mine! http://paulandtoni.com/?p=287 Thanks ha! :)

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  58. by joy PHILIPPINES, on July 4 2008 @ 11:15 am

     

    sa wakas:

    http://iamdzoi.com/2008/07/04/life-after-the-wedding-the-married-life/

    joys last blog post..Life After the Wedding - the Married Life

  59. by Jody PHILIPPINES, on July 5 2008 @ 10:15 am

     

    Finally, my take on this:

    http://www.jodyliwanag.com/2008/07/05/awtk-1/

  60. by aggie.aviso , on July 6 2008 @ 9:23 am

     

    Hey Joey, thanks for participating, I will post my round up soon :)

  61. by aggie.aviso , on July 6 2008 @ 9:25 am

     

    Thanks Kathy! Linked your new blog up na :D
    Palink din nito: The Salad Caper - http://thesaladcaper.com :D Thanks!

  62. by aggie.aviso , on July 6 2008 @ 9:27 am

     

    Thanks Toni, got your post na :D

  63. by aggie.aviso , on July 6 2008 @ 9:30 am

     

    Matindi to, napaLSS ako ng You and Me against the World dito, bwahahaha :D

  64. by kelly PHILIPPINES, on July 8 2008 @ 2:34 pm

     

    aggie, pag sinagot ko ito, malalaman nyo na secret namin! (uuuy… curious…)

    pero sa totoo lang ha, hindi ata kaya ng powers ko maging seryoso ng ganito :D

  65. by Meeya UNITED STATES, on July 9 2008 @ 9:20 pm

     

    hi aggie, sa wakas nagawa ko rin ito hehe. pasensiya na, super busy lang lately. :) anyway, sasali pa rin ako sa next one ok? thanks for starting this q&a, i was also hoping to start one of my own (given that mine is a meme blog and all) pero, haaay, wala talaga akong time (not to mention creative sparks like yours) :D

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  67. by aggie.aviso , on July 15 2008 @ 11:43 pm

     

    Meeya, thanks for participating :)

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