3 Times the Charm!

My phone got lost again (for the third time). Pero this time, it was my fault. I normally sleep on the bus on the way home and I remembered Edil texted while I was sleeping. I distinctly remember his text (as it was kinda’ green!) but I cannot remember if I put it back in my bag. Or it might have been misplaced when I bought bananacue on the way home.

The phone was bulok anyway - a very old 3315. From 3650 to 1100 to 3315. Bummer. Good thing Edil works at SMART so he can replace my prepaid SIM to its original number. Maganda pa naman ung number na yun. The problem is where will I ever get the money to buy a phone again, given our present circumstances……

Being a Secretary Bride (to be)

I have been busy these past few days compiling and reorganizing our wedding folder. I have real folders which I keep contracts and a few tear-outs of ideas from magazines. And I have a USB cable 256MB where I keep everything. Heeee.

So far:
- I have organized our pre-nuptial pictures and have made an Excel folder of all the photos that are nice and a description for each and a label of the shot. For example, the Sunflower Shots, The Lovers in UP Shots, the Autumn in UP Shots, and the White/Khakis Shots. I labelled the pictures where Matthew was goofing around in white the Tolits Shots. Heeee….
- I have sent the list of pictures that will be included in the AVP to Mimi.
- We are finally paid in full for the Church and Veritas Hall. That’s 20K off our pockets. Organizing our expenses makes me want to hide it from Edil, he would be surprised that we were able to spend that much, on the other hand, he would be proud he was able to save that much in 4 months.
- Organizing song list right now.

Shall We Dance?

I saw an ad of a female dance instructor at W@W. And we are corresponding already. Hmmmm….do we have time for a 1-day lesson of the waltz? It’s only 500 for a 1 and 1/2 hr session. I really would like Edil to know how to do it, as what the DI said, lalaki ang magdadala ng sayaw….

Chicken Barbecue and Roast Beef.

Mrs. Rosalie Valera is a blessing. She allowed me to give our downpayment next week (as I’ve just shelled out 20-30K this week) and the full payment for her services one week or even at the day of the wedding. She also amenable to correspond via fax and e-mail and the 295/head can have her two specialties. She can also have lechon at Elar’s w/o corkage - and so with the wine, softdrinks, etc. Heaven sent! I’m quite excited to have the food tasting and the mock up as well.

Now, here are the good parts:

1. As for the taste of food, I dont have a problem with it despite the fact I havent tasted any of her food yet. She has catered to many stars and restaurants and even to Malacanang! Aga Muhlach is one of her many regular clients. Why does she not own a restaurant like Via Mare? She doesn’t want to. She wants to be at home most of the time. Plus, Al Navarro, a former FCAP president, recommended her (even if she is not a member of FCAP). Jeck, another w@wie, is friends with one of her children and they have been getting her for their office functions forever.
2. The centerpieces are so elegant and tasteful! Her items are not old. Plus, she has taste in flowers. She showed me a centerpiece she would like to use for my wedding, if we can agree on the theme and I was blown away. I wanted white and pink flowers only with minimal green (kung pwede lang lagyan ng brown twigs eh!) foliage.

I think I will just upgrade the Tiffany Chairs for us and have them dress it up like this.

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Vanity Ek-Ek on next post.

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FAVORS

Phoebe of Printed Matter sent me the layout she made for out favor magnets. Not yet approved since Im quite partial to the following changes:

Monogrammed Stickers
1) I might change the Aviso-Austriaco script to Edil and Aggie.
2) The Monogrammed “A” doesn’t suit me though. I initially wanted the Floral Font. Might look it up and send it to Phoebe na lang.

Magnet A:
1) The layout is a bit off. I was thinking the whole picture would occupy the whole space of the magnet. Tapos parang embossed na lang ung E&A na logo.
2) The half layout is fine din except I dont want the sahde of brown used.

Magnet B:
1) Wala akong reklamo dito. Padadagdagan ko na lang siguro ung text sa “Caleruega”. I cant choose which tuloy. I only get to have 1 pick for each color ; tanong: which one?!

Wrappers:

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Hitting the One Month Mark!

Grabe! I may have just told you guys I’m umay but it doesn’t mean I’m ready for the big day! Let’s just say Im ready for life after the BIG day but the details of the BIG day has not been covered as much as I would like it to be!

And, I never thought I would say this (as I was never a homebody ever since), pero miss ko na tumambay sa bahay namin! Araw araw na lang umaalis, be it to meet suppliers, canvass stuff, distribute invites, go to parties of relatives, etc etc. I miss sleeping the whole day and just bumming around in front of the TV. Karay karay ko pa si Matthew since the new maid (I think I havent posted this yet, we have one. Not that it affected me as much since she doesnt take care of Mato - she doesnt like kids.) cant handle being alone with Matthew.

Edil, on the other hand, is I-dont-know-what. When I kid him na “Malapit na!”, he gets that all-serious look. I know, pressure. Not pressure from me though, but pressure where to look for all the money we need! LOL. He told me that he cant focus on the “marrying” part yet when he needs to get across “where-to-get-the-money-so-we-can-marry-part” yet! Poor boy. We will get by though. I know we will. Edil just cant shake off the “Im-supposed-to-pay-for-everything” part.

The gift Im trying to prepare for him is 95% done - just need to write the story, which would be the most difficult part. Im thinking of buying him the perfect watch as a wedding gift (since he hasnt been able to splurge on himself since we started planning the wedding), but so far, I havent seen anything that is near the “perfect” watch I want. Oh well.

Seems like Im babbling here already.

Checklist:

(This is a screenshot on how I plan the wedding, parang di nagwowork no? c”,) )

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Gaaaaaaahhh.

And I can officially say this, Im sick of wedding planning.

Dont get me wrong.

I miss writing like me in my LJ. (Go figure what that means.)

ONE MONTH NA LANG and I’m back to blogging like me.
Thank God.

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Checking off things from my to-do list:

Check: Make-Up Artist.

Had my trial make up with Marlyn Padagas (Mobile No: 09156365599) last Saturday at my house. She was very very ma-chikka! I initially showed her what I want and asked if it was bagay with me, and she told me, OK daw yun. A full updo won’t complement my face (and body) since I’m big and my gown is…a little bit bare sa likod. She was able to execute what I had in mind for my hair, since I wanted curls na hindi Goldilocks and a clean face (meaning walang stray hairs), when she was about to put my hair up, she asked pa kung gusto ko daw ng “parang hinagod lang ng kamay” or “yung clean na look talaga”. I went for the latter and glad I did. The people in the compound where I live told me I looked great, but, since that day was tooo hot, I managed to make pahid half of the foundation off my forehead. I liked what I saw though. Edil loved my hair, and for once, my critical Mom approved. So with that, I booked her. With her price, I’m definitely satisfied already (3K for me alone since Im preparing separate from family.)

Things to Work on Though:
1. I’ll need better eye definition. But since there is a great chance I would end up crying, I need to explore other options.
2. I might have the updo lower, since I want something like this (see side) for my hair. I just don’t know pa what to choose. Might schedule for another trial with her come June pag may function akong puntahan c”,).
3. I might bring my own foundation. I’m yellow-based, so I need to research more on this.
4. I think the highlight under my eyes were a bit light for pictures…but it looks great (naks, hahaha) in person.

And you would not believe the price I got for 150 magnets, colored wrappers and monogram stickers! Below our specified budget. (I still have money for other good things, hehehe.)

Side kwento lang, I was at their office when the big rains and thunderstorms came in (busy kasi sa kwentuhan), Kerwin was kind enough to drive me to SM Centerpoint since I dont have a car. Ang bait ng couple na ‘to. They also know how to take care of clients, be it big time or small time (like me, hello, magkano ba kinikita nila sa orders ko unlike their other clients like PLDT and Chowking?). I saw their page in the upcoming WE magazine and naku, they will be in demand come June, I tell you!

~ Which leads us to another good thing! Edil loved our pre-nups so much he wanted to maximize the hundreds of nice pics! So he wanted to have posters of us around the location of the hall. I initially didn’t want posters kasi 1) I find it too vain, hehehe. 2) San naman namin gagamitin ung poster pagkatapos? 3) Mapapamahal lang kami. Edil deviced a way na pwede sya namin ma-display sa bahay and since Printed Matter can print it for us as 1p/square incg, if we are going to go buy 18×24 poster sizes, 432pesos sya papatak. Ok na din.

I loved what Edil did for the poster though c”,) Galing galing ng thart ko! Hehehe.

Bigger Version found here.

Caterer Update:
I’m in touch with Batis Asul, Center Table and Town’s Delight. All of which have catered in Caleruega already and within budget. Im scheduled to have food tasting with Eloquente, since a wowie (Rach ni Arn) recommended them. We are to decide once we talk and discuss with each one of them during the weekend.

However, our caterer actually had a talk with Mom and clarified that she wasn’t backing out. (Long story kasi, since all of us are close, when MIL was booking her for a party for one of her apos, she said in passing na “Nalalayuan kami.” sa MIL ko. So ang nangyari, nasabi ni MIL sa akin and then voiced out “baka napipilitan” lang sila sa amin.) Her only apprehension was the two day pay she will giving to the staff since they will be there the day before and the quarters they will be staying at. Solution presented was they stay at the warehouse my Dad stays in Cavite (kasi pag magbalikan sila sa Manila, dodoble gas nila.) OK naman si Dad sa ganun. The reasons why I still want to hold onto them are: 1) They really serve great food. Every function our family has had, be it big or small, they never fail to deliver (except for this one, nahaharass ako! haha!) 2) Value for money. Since our family are friends, she gave the menu of 450/head at 380/head, with salad, 5 viands, pasta, 3 desserts, free flowing drinks (much like the menus of high end caterers). Plus, she waived the OOT charge, Magdadagdag lang kami sa staff nya, which would be equivalent to a day’s pay (which is still alright = 300 x 10-15 = OK pa din kesa sa 30% OOT charge ng iba.) 3) OK na kasi menu namin sa kanila eh. Layout, everything.

Edil has given word na magbook na kami during the weekend. Pressure.
Pero, kaya yan, I threw a tantrum last night and my mom si helping me out this weekend (hahaha, parang bata no? Hindi naman, nag-inarte lang ako na pressured na ako, ako lang nagso-source out ng suppliers, etc.)

Off to my fitting later in the afternoon after I get my Betty’s Bodyform c”,) Wish me luck! I hope the gown looks good on me!

EDIT @ 9:30AM:
1. We went to Dapitan Arcade to look for tin ice buckets and what do I get? Pink and brown ceramic vases and supplier for pink and brown candles! I didnt get to buy pa muna, kasi I still need to finalize the look I want. Ang dami dun promise! Heeeh. Beats going to Divisoria for me.
2. Our cord is made and ready and I LOOOOOOOVE it! My cousin Pom was able to mix pink and brown fake pearl beads to make it loook so classy I’ll post pictures once it has been sealed already since she wanted my opinion whether to make a Swarovski Cross or just dangles. Since the cross costs an additional 450 bucks, dangles na lang c”,) Tipid tipid! The same beads will be used to dress up the ceremonial candles.
3. Had date with Edil to eat at Cajun’s and encountered super tagal customer service. Hindi na daw kami kakain dun uli. Too bad since I love Cajun’s :(.
4. Will be watching Star Wars III later. Best seats c/o SMART, hehehe. Since Edil works there, we have been able to watch Alicia Keys, and give tickets to watch BLUE, Ja Rule and the BENCH Fashion Show (Im still gloating over the fact I wasnt able to watch this!). Eto lang ang perk sa pagwowork sa SMART ni Edil. I wont miss it once he resigns after the wedding.

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Back to Wedding Preps:

Six weeks before the day, I feel the need to do a checklist again.

The past few days were a bit productive for us. After Discovery Weekend, we went to Amadeo, Cavite on Tuesday to distribute invites and to sleep there as we were scheduled for a canonical interview very early on Wednesday morning at St. Francis Xavier in Nasugbu, Batangas — which I tell you is at very end of Batangas (well, that’s what I feel it about it. Ang layo talaga super.) The pre-cana interview was done in 15 minutes, after waiting for an hour in line. After that, went to Caleruega to make the deposit for Veritas Hall and to do an ocular again, this time, Steve, our florist/event stylist, was with us, so it was very easy for us to do some brainstorming how will dress up the place. More about it later.

The only area we are having a (major) problem on is the caterer for the reception. While most couples book their caterer first, we book them last! Hahaha. Just kidding. We actually have a caterer already, a family friend who does functions for us ever since, kaso when my MIL was booking her for an apo’s 1st birthday, she mentioned that she was hesistant/worried about the wedding, since it was out of town, it’s in the morning so it would be double pay for her waiters, cooks, etc…etc..etc. She didn’t say out loud na ayaw nya, pero parang ganun na din. So, we are looking for a caterer again. Since the list of guests have been growing (more on this later), we need to cut down again on the per head budget (it was originally at 400-500/pax, which is good na din). At ang hirap!! If money is no problem, we would have booked whoever is a high end trusted caterer and be done with it. Kaso, di pwede. As of the moment, most of the invites have been sent already, and surprise! Most of them had RSVP’ed yes! While it is really touching that people will be going out of their way, on a weekday, and morning pa, and out of town pa ha, to see us finally wed, it is becoming a nightmare for us! Hahaha. Right now, the 150 guest list is at 202 and growing…patay kami. So far, we have three caterers shortlisted. We are just after good food at reasonable prices (read: around 300/head) kahit magluto lang sila, kasi our event sytlist would take care of everything, from the set up, to the couple’s table, VIP and guest tables and even the centerpieces. Chairs and tables, we can get from a supplier in Cavite (my parents are based in Amadeo, Cavite now). Basta, masarap lang ang luto at hindi kami mapapahiya sa guests namin. Mahirap ba na requirement yun? (Asa pa ako!)

We were supposed to go to Blue Petals in Paranaque yesterday but Edil and I got into a misunderstanding that made us decide to cool off separately first. Haaaaaaaaay, after DW, away na naman. Not as bad as before though, because we both know how hot-headed and temperamental we can be. So, pag ganun, mas maganda muna wag muna mag-usap at baka makapagbitaw pa ng di magandang salita. Nasayang nga lang araw namin kahapon. Bwiset.

I’ll do the checklist later.

EDIT:

42 Days to Go:

To Do List:

Church and Ceremony:

1. Pay balance (10K) on May 24. Ask Cristalle for the bank account of Caleruega at Security Bank.
2. Publish marriage banns. Send marriage banns/permissions from our Churches thru LBC to St. Francis Xavier plus the copy of DW certificate.
3. Reproduce approved version of missallette. - 10 to 20 pcs.
4. Have Printed Matter do front cover of missallette (concept - OK - a collage of our pre-nup pictures in geometric designs - I hate flowery designs (no offense to anyone) - colors are halved - pink on top, brown at the bottom - with 06.24.05 as its text together with a little caption at the bottom center - Kung marunong lang ako mag Photoshop ng mahusay talaga! tsk tsk…need to study on it, siguro after the wedding)
5. Get pouches for the salt, rice, and sugar.
6. Memorize wedding vows!
7. Have fans made c/o Printed Matter. - 15pcs. (@150)
8. Have tissue pouches made in vellum paper - optional, if there is time.
9. Finalize song list. Enlist help of Nikko (cousin).
10. Assign Lector, Readers, Offerers.
11. Have mock up set up c/o Steve.

This is the original set up I like. Steve would be scouting for ice buckets in Divisoria (but I saw one in Dapitan Arcade at 15 a piece). No tulle on pews whatsoever. I requested for a white carpet (I hope he source one out), and pink petals on the borders of it. Very very minimal. I just told Steve to focus all the flowers on the altar - and the columns on the altar. He will also be doing the holder for the Unity Candle as Caleruega doesn’t have one. The price for everything? 3K. (For real!!) He is charging materials at cost. Bahala na daw kami sa PF nya. I’m going to pay him good kahit di ko pa nakikita final output nya, Steve has been doing most of our functions ever since I was 15. Tried and tested na sya talaga. I just specified flowers are all pink and white, no yellow, nor green foliage, and no mums. Defintely. Sabi nya, oo daw, he will source flowers na kasing presyo ng mums pero hindi mums, hahaha, may sinabi sya na flower na I forgot. Sabi ko lagyan ng brown stems as accents, sabi nya no need. The pews and the altars are brown already. (Set up idea c/o Martha Stewart).

This is another set up I showed Steve and Edil was quite partial on this one. But Steve told us, dun na lang sa ice buckets kasi it’s recyclable - meaning he can transfer it to the reception area after the ceremony (I told him kasi lahat ng flowers sa Church ilipat sa reception after - para mas tipid …ilipat sa reception/receiving table..wherever!) I told Steve yung arch sa Caleruega lagyan na lang lang ribbons and tela with little topiaries on the columns since it will only be visible during picture takings. Lalagyan pa din nya daw ng arko. Meron naman daw syang materials, flowers na lang. Ang sarap ng feeling knowing this supplier really knows how to execute what you really really want. I will defintely recommend Steve to w@w once my wedding is over. Mahirap kasi mag-recommend pag walang pictures. He doesn’t keep a portfolio of what he does since he is like Mang Boy Mahusay of Dangwa too (only he is gay, more proper and 100x more formal, I presume).

Gown, Accessories, Suit for Edil and Matthew
Gowns and Suits/Barongs for Entou:
*Schedule fittings and buy little stuff
1. Gown being made already..wala akong masyadong arte dito since my gown in itself is very very simple. Ni wala ngang beadwork. Marami na lang layers sa baba, with only a sweep train. What I am focusing right now is losing weight. The top of my gown will be made in June pa, depending on my weight loss, since it can go from corset, to the original design to another version. Yung focus ng gownmaker ko is the layers on my gown which, she says, should be more expensive than beadwork since mahirap daw yun. Konting lambing na lang para di pa din taasan ang presyo, hehehe. She will be charging labor only since I provided all the materials. 12k-15k, price negotiable. I’m scheduled for fitting next week.
2. Entou gowns are in the process of being made already. I sourced all the fabrics and designs and just gave the tela to my entou, which is either family or close friends. Gift na lang nila ang tahi, which, feedback from friends say, cost them around 700 bucks. They are tea length dresses with pink flowers on it and ribbons lang naman. The fabric is all chiffon, which is cheap, but the accents were a bit expensive. OK lang than having a couturier do everything for us.
3. We are having problems with the male entourage though - we still can’t decide whether it’s going to ba barongs for all of them or suits. We went to Gardini’s yesterday and the rent is 700/ suit and pants, and they dry clean it before you rent it out (no deposit required). But 1) if we get them barongs, sa kanila na yun and the tahi is only 400 bucks (we have an agreement na sila ang labor kami ang fabric) 2) if we rent the suit, parang sayang ang 400 na share nila…
4. Edil is having his suit done at Gardini’s (kung ako masusunod, sa Onesimus, but then, it’s his suit!) I picked up the swatch already and I insisted that he wear a three-button suit, at dito kami medyo nag-away kahapon. He doesn’t know I’ve reserached the Internet about the “technical” terms on suits (lapels, buttons, inside shirts, tucks, etc) just so hindi kami parang tanga sa mananhi, e kesyo ganito daw, ganyan…..hay, quiet na lang ako. After all, he didn’t make pakialam about my gown, which he has yet to see. I trust naman Edil’s taste. I think I’m just too overbearing at times? Hehehe. Need to work on this trait of mine, or else I’d end up a nagging, know-it-all wife. E ako pa man din, I hate it when my Mom nags. Yaaaaaaak!
5. Matthew will be donning a vest and bow tie (I actually can see my little boy being so cute and gwapo at the same time, parang binata! Hahaha!).
6. Contact Marietta (family modista) to have flower girls’ gowns to be made. The pink cummerband for their accessory will be made by Ma (MIL, since she knows how to sew too).
7. Accessories:
Bride:
Veil, Garter, Secondary Veil -c/o Lulu
Shoes - Since I’m a size 10, I need to decide where I will be having these made. I have the design in my file folder already. Im just still deciding whether I go high-end or not at all. Ang hirap mag decide. Especially since my shoes will be peaking in my dress. Hay. Mawawalan ako ng oras nito.
Jewelry - c/o Tita Alou. Im just borrowing earrings since Im leaving my neck bare.
Bag - I have a design as well, kaso I’m thinking of not spending anymore for this one. I wont be using a white bag with a huge flower on it everyday! Hahanap na lang ako sa Divi ulit.
Groom:
Shoes - Edil wants to splurge on this one so bahala sya dito.
Tie, Hankerchief, Polo Shirt - I’m splurging on this one. Hehehe. Hahanap pa ako ng tela so a tie can be made for him and the bow tie for Matthew.
Watch - Im buying this for him as a (surprise) gift come wedding day. (I hope he is too tamad read this crap.) Sana lang may pera pa ako by that time. Ha!
Entourage:
Bead earrings and bracelets done by cousin Pom. Cute stuff. Less than a hundred bucks, plus, it’s no charge for me

Flowers for Entourage:

Bridal Bouquet - Carnations and Roses. (different shades of pink with brown accents)
Mothers - Stem of Magnolias
MOH, BM - similar bouquets but smaller in size
3 Jr. Bridesmaids - posies
3 Secondary Sponsors - I specified a single big flower (like a ranunculus, pero cheaper) since they will be wearing sexy dresses with ribbons flowing na lang
3 Usherettes - wrist corsages
7 FlowerGirls - pomanders, I specified small circle foams lang kasi my girls are going to be around 4-5 years old lang (baka nga di pa maglakad ung iba!) .
2nd Bouquet

Steve quoted 3,500 for all of these. tapos ung loose petals ko, isang sako na lang daw. Hehehe. Again, I think the flowers for the entourage need not be expensive kasi after the ceremony, it won’t be seen na as most of them will be going to different tables. Sabagay sabi naman ni Steve, hindi sa flowers, nasa arrangement. I agree. Sabi ko lang, kahit mahal ang buoquet ko, OK lang, hehehe. I also specified the type of roses I want, gusto ko bukang-buka (sorry for the term, medyo di ko type, pero yun lang maisip ko na description), I mentioned Equadorian roses, pero sabi ni Steve, may Holland roses daw na ganun din, kelangan mo lang malaman when it would bloom/make buka. I would have wanted peonies sana pero depende pa kung papayag Tita Rose ko sa budget (since she will paying for all of my flowers as a gift.)

Reception:

I still need to scout for the fabric but the centerpieces are all OK. Edil wanted drapes on the ceilings and Steve said it is do-able (sabi ko, totoo? E di ba mahal yun?! sabi nya, hindi daw, tela lang yun, kasi hindi naman super taas ang ceiling, sana magawa, problem is walang hooks sa Hall, takot kami baka mapagalitan ni Fr. Bosi, hehehe). Topiaries will be in the six columns of the hall. Plus the entrance to Veritas (steps leading to it), will be covered as well. We will be doing a mock up on the centerpieces 2 weeks from now, kasi gagawin pa ni Steve. But Im having doubts about the brown runners, sabi kasi ni Glo, gloomy daw tingnan, which may point sya. Baka patahi na lang ako ng pink runners with brown borders kay Ma. Ang sarap na marunong sa tela, ituturo ko lang sa magazine, may makikita na mas mura sa Divisoria! Hahahaha! The brown bowls I saw in Dapitan Arcade as well, and siguro sabihin ko na lang kay Steve yung flower, gawin rose petals…

Guest cards - c/o Printed Matter. Kaso with 200 guests, baka di ko kayanin gumawa pa ng seating arrangements! Im thinking na ilagay na lang names nila sa receiving table tapos when they get their names, they are told which table to sit at, tpos sabay bigay ng favor and pen to write the guest sheet. (I just notice that when you leave the guest sheet at the table, most of them dont bother writing at it!)
Favors - Magnets c/o Printed Matter (again). Im having three designs, and baka maubos ko din ang magnetic sheet nila, hehehe. Sana makahanap pa ako ng kahati.
Posters - Pictures c/o Mimi and Karl, lagyan na lang nga konting arte ni Edil. Printing c/o Printed Matter.
Wish cards - design, Ok, reproduction na lang (I still haven’t decided if DIY or Printed Matter din).
Thank You cards - deisgn, OK, reproduction na lang.

Edil told me to spend the money I have on things I need and I think I will just take care of the small details I want on the reception area. Naawa na din ako kay Edil at ang dami na naming gastos!

Eto na lang muna. Tamad na ako mag-isip. Nakukulta utak ko, hehehe.

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Got this originally from Dionne: (words and ideas all from her:)

Ten Signs That You Are a W@W Addict:

10. You start reading an average of 50 emails a day… or at least try to.

9. You start referring to yourself as a w@wie.

8. You take your wedding preparations seriously and try to devote 70% of your life to it.

7. You know the Weddings at Work website like a back of your hand.

6. You start recommending the w@w website and yahoogroup to your soon-to-be married friends.

5. You know what MIL, H2B, DIY, TMU, OTD means.

4. You unconsciously sign your e-mails to your non-w@wie friends with your name, fiancés name, date of wedding, ceremony, and reception venue.

3. Finishing your suppliers’ rating is a dream… other than the wedding, of course.

2. You are now maintaining a blog.

1. Benz is not just a car to you.

Hi! I’m Aggie and I’m a w@waholic.

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DW HIGH!

I’ve always wanted to go to Discovery Weekend, not because I have doubts of marrying Edil, but because, I’ve felt Edil and I were stuck in rut and there was simply no time and avenue to seriously talk peacefully without having one walk out on the other (this happens to us). What can I say, being with a man since I was 15, watching him grow up, stumble, grow up, stagnate (hehehe), and grow up again, let’s just say you get disillusioned and overlook the very important reasons you fell in love with him in the first place. When it was all giddy giddy and big things in the past, when every fight leads to a sweeter reconciliation and a longer make-up, the present was all the little things just adding up to one another.

The first day had us fighting over the smallest things already - so small I don’t even remember what we fought about in the first place! One irritation led to another and before we knew it, we were not speaking with each other already. This continued over the next morning, when I actually felt like bawling, not because me and Edil haven’t made up yet, but because I thought we wasted close to five thousand bucks to waste away! I could not even leave to save face! Then one of the topics focused on making dialogues instead of dicussions. The difference between is that you use your heart over your mind and focus on your feelings and not accuse, so your partner would not be defensive. Parang natamaan kami.

After each talk, you get to have a period of reflection where you write things you realized with the help of questions and then have the chance to have a dialogue with your partner after. Naku, dito kami nakakatuwa. So we were having a discussion instead of a dialogue na, tapos magri-ring yung bell to signal that the dialogue session is over. Once the bell rang, para kaming de-susing mga robot, we stop, stand up and end the discussion. End of story. Parang walang nangyari (in short, walang kwenta! hahaha!)

But, after that talk, everything just fell into place. We got to have the topics about the stages of love: Romance, Disillusionment and True Joy. And it wasnt surprising we have covered every single symptom of being disillusioned or falling out of love. But the most touching part was, it helped us realize that Love is a Decision. And though, most of the times, we “show” we don’t love each other, we have long decided that it will be “US” forever. I always knew love is a choice - that you always have the control to fall in love again once you fall out of love. And being with Edil, having the chance to finally talk and let go of issues that has been haunting us for the last 3 years, was very very liberating.

And that fateful Saturday, I was 15 again, and he was 17, and we were just like starting to fall in love over again.

We made resolutions to never fall in a rut again, with the primary cure making time to be alone together or go out even once a week. With Matthew here, us with opposing schedules and the wedding planning all over us, it is difficult to even focus on the “How are you today?” part of the talk when I am sleepy as hell when he comes home at night to call. And since I have been blogging even since 2003, looking at past entries just proved how much I have loved that boy I first saw that day of April 29, 1994 (yes! I remember!)

09.02.04 (from my LJ)

On Loving.

On the way home from work earlier, I was thinking about the almost-one-year borderline craziness with H and how I ever used to think he was a better man than Edil.

In some ways, he was indeed better. He was a man of the world, very urbane, gentle to the core, romantic, a bachelor. But then Edil was a better man not only for what he is, but for what he has done for me.

Mutual friends always say how lucky Edil was to have me because I’m this and that. And I would be such a liar to say it didn’t get to my head at times. Everytime we would fight, I would keep my head up even though I perfectly knew I was wrong. Simple. He was lucky to have me. Because I am.

But then I got to thinking, if Edil was thinking the same thing that I was but instead of having the reason Because I am, he would have the reason Because I have…

Then it hit me. Loving is not being lucky to have some person as a gift. It is more than that. It’s what you make of yourself as a gift to that person. “Because I am” can be such perfect example to selfishness. Simply because, I maybe this and that but have I given?On the way home from work earlier, I was thinking about the almost-one-year borderline craziness with H and how I ever used to think he was a better man than Edil.

He isn’t.

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After the weekend, isa lang nasa isip namin:
Ang tagal ng June 24! Hehehe.
Kaso ang dami pang kelangan gawin….waaaaah!

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Some are downright funny, some shocking, while some can tug heartstrings and bring a tear or two.

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Edil completely surprised me.
While out eating lunch a couple of days ago, he said out of the blue: “Thart, parang gusto kong matuto magsayaw.”

I was like, “Whhhhaaaa?”
He then grinned and explained he watched Dirty Dancing 2: Havana Nights the other night and felt like he wanted to “groove.” So affected was he by the film that he was able to download the whole soundtrack that night!

I love to dance ever since and having a guy who doesn’t want to dance had always seemed a downer to me. Once, he obliged by letting me teach him dance and we, well, I, ended up just laughing at his attempts. He doesn’t have left feet, he can follow steps, but siguro, then, he just doesn’t have the beat. My dad was a good dancer and I would like to believe I inherited it from him, and he told me that a dancer need to have that beat within him, yun bang may pulso at tyempo (like singing), plus, you really have to like what you are doing.

I have always danced, alone, or with other people, and in school or organizations, I’d always end up as one of the dancers (kasi I can’t sing to save my life! LOL). But since Matthew has been born, dancing has taken a backseat.

I have this weird habit of dancing in my room like crazy when alone before. My siblings used to tease the hell out of me about it, saying umuuga buong bahay (We have wooden floors.) But they left me alone. Now, with Matthew clinging to me as soon as I get home, and without my own CD player or radio or even discman, I dance in my head.

Edil told me: “Thart, let’s dance ha.”
And I’m looking forward to it c”,)

Ano kayang first dance namin? Hindi pwede yung Dirty Dancing, mahaba gown ko. Hehehe.

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Bakit kaya ganun? Kung kelan pauwi ka na, dun ka may naiisip na i-blog? Wala naman ng time.

Sayang.
Bukas na lang uli.

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Is this right? It’s already May 1?!

Half of me is giddy with excitement - that the day is getting closer and closer. The other half is just plain zonked out - I can’t wait for it to be over. 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, my thoughts are all about the wedding - how it will go, the reception layouts, place cards, invites..honestly, it’s making me sick. It is good I planned the wedding just months from the wedding day itself or else I would have gone zonkers. I know it might be too early to let go - we still haven’t finalized anything with the caterer, haven’t had our rings made, haven’t even distributed the invites! But then, maybe the past few days, weeks even, got me into thinking and made me see things in different perspective.

My family and I were doing some grocery shopping last Thursday as my Mom will be flying to Singapore for a week. We had Japanese dinner and went to the grocery section and found back issues of Martha Stewart Weddings at a hundred bucks. I grabbed two and requested my Dad to pay for it (I know, PAL pa din ako LOL), when Dad joked, “Puro wedding magazines ka na naman! Baka naman you are obsessed with the ritual and not the man you are marrying.” I was quite taken aback and told him no, but then I honestly was a bit offended. (My dad still bought the magazines for me though). And then I asked myself, “Am I really just hell set into having my dream wedding and not the man Im going to marry?”

Edil and I got into a major fight around two weeks ago which almost led to the cancellation of the wedding itself. Few people know about it (and the reason behind it) but we had an honest-to-goodness talk (after maybe two talks of non-stop shouting) and decided to go through with it. When you think about it, we have dreamt of this day ever since we started longing to be together forever, and maybe, the stress and pressure of having my dream wedding come true just got to be..well..over the top.

Many say planning a wedding is the stage for practice for the real show - married life. And now, I can’t help but appreciate the things Edil has done for me just to give in to what I want. He once told me he has robbed me of my youthful years since I had Matthew early and had to sacrifice a lot of things, and he doesn’t want to deny me some thing I deserve. Sure, I still get irritated at senseless stuff - like how he can’t stop smoking, or how he cannot, for the life of me, change the way he dresses (there is nothing wrong with the way he dresses - he in fact dresses well, not just my taste. He is all trendy and funky and I’m all classic and simple - in short, Manang, LOL) but at the end of the day, after all the wedding planning, my vision of forever is still the same: being with him until we are old and gray.

I’m quite excited for this week as we are scheduled to have our Discovery Weekend. Im quite scared that we might back out of the wedding again, but then, I’m sure it will be all for the best c”,)

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